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I was quite active in the FS/OS community back at the turn of the century but ended up getting out because these creepy vibes were pretty much everywhere at the time. You just sort of put up with it in the moment, but it really did become "death by a thousand cuts" - constantly being hit on, constantly having to deal with graphic, "joking" discussions of sex or pornography, being undermined because how would women know anything about tech, etc. It got very very tiring.

@CatherineFlick i'm so sorry to hear that, but at the same time i am so completely unsurprised. 😠

Prof. Catherine Flick

@mawhrin Yeah I mean it was just sort of how things were, you just put up with it and were seen as "one of the boys" or you got pushed out by being a bitch or a spoilsport or whatever. It was very easy to get caught up in the flow of that sort of banter and just let it happen, laugh it off, they were just joking, etc. But I do think it really did affect my self esteem about my own abilities and value. I'm glad I got out but I'm also glad it's getting better, bit by bit.