Friendly reminder to folks on Fedi: the engagement *you* see on a post might not be the engagement the *poster* sees.
Take my silly polls, for instance. I occasionally see comments saying "you'd have more responses if it said [variable]".
Those commenters probably can't see the responses, so they assume few are responding.
My last poll has over 1200 responses, but federation might not show *you* all of them. And that's OK! But don't assume what you see is what others see here.
Another aspect to this is replies. You might not see every reply to a post. It isn't like centralized social media... it's more like how you might miss some replies to an email chain if you weren't included.
This can fool us into thinking a post doesn't have nasty replies, or replies answering the question, or replyfolk being replyfolk, etc.
(It can also fool us into thinking Fedi feels safer than it can be for some of us, but that's a different topic.)
When I first got here, I incorrectly assumed that everyone could see what I saw.
Nowadays, as a poster, I try to keep in mind that the audience for my toots might not see the replies. Leaving space in the original post for clarification edits can help reduce redundant replies.
Grace toward Fedifolk is another thing, and I can't teach anyone that. But patience is a virtue and keeping in mind that not everyone here sees what you see is going to serve you well.
If I want to see what you're seeing and any conversation I might be missing then I select "Open original page" from the post menu and that takes me to your server.
At least I think that shows me everything.
@mackaj Not everything. It won't show you things from servers I've blocked, and things I've said privately. Also, I believe AUTHORIZED_FETCH can kill that but I'm not sure.
If I say "I don't want my server to host content from [bad server]", I don't think you're going to see it via "open original page". At least, that's what I observed in my testing, I'm not an ActivityPub dev and I only admin for myself.